Am I Bisexual?

She was a tall beautiful woman, standing about 5'6" with long flowing red hair and white porcelain skin. I was only about seven years old at the time but I couldn't keep my eyes off of her. As time passed and I matured, so did my feelings for women. For me, it wasn't a question of if I was bisexual, I just always knew.

Webster's dictionary defines "bisexual" as "sexually oriented towards both sexes". During our lives, our sexual feelings may change several times. Does that mean we should label ourselves at any specific point in time? Perhaps not. Some of us may feel one way when we are pre-teens and then as we hit maturity, we may feel another way. Perhaps as we grow into adulthood, something clicks and we find out that we feel another way. We grow within life; life does not grow around us.

It is a well known fact that humans are naturally curious and every one of us has thought about being with someone of the same sex at least once in our lifetime, even if some of us don't freely admit it. Most of us have such curiosities and even experiment when we are very young and haven't had the chance to be told that homosexuality and such thoughts or feelings are "wrong". It is those of us who are brave enough to follow through with our curiosities, regardless of what society, our family and out friends have told us, who will be able to find out if it is truly in their heart to be with someone of the same sex.

There are two different levels of bisexuality, bi-curious and bisexual. What do these mean and how do they pertain to you? Simply put, bi-curiosity is when you have sexual feelings towards the same sex but have never had an experience. This does not mean you are bisexual. Curiosity is just that, a curiosity. It means wondering about the unknown. Sometimes the taboo of being with someone of the same sex makes it that much more exciting. Bisexual on the other hand means that you have had a few experiences and wish to continue having experiences, perhaps even dating someone of the same sex. Of course, bisexuals can go either way. If you enjoy being with both sexes and decide for a period of time to be someone of the opposite sex, that does not mean you are straight and if you decide to be with someone of the same sex, that does not mean you are gay.

Are YOU bisexual? Only you can decide if that's who you are or not. Are you bisexual just because you find someone of the same sex attractive? Not at all! I have known many people in my life who have found some people very attractive for one reason or another but that did not mean it was feeling of sexuality, rather admiring the beauty of another being. So, how do you know if you are bisexual? Look deep inside yourself and figure out if your feelings towards the same sex are sexual or just admiration. If your feelings are in fact sexual, explore it. Who knows, you may just find out something new about yourself.